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The Deeply Meaningful Work of Motherhood-with Peavy
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The Deeply Meaningful Work of Motherhood-with Peavy

SM's Journey: Conversations from the Trenches

Releasing a young adult to their fate, truly accepting that you did your best, refocusing on your own future, and seeing that you can find joy and purpose again in life is a deeply meaningful process. You are on your own hero's journey, whatever the outcome. -@ppeavyy9 on Twitter

This quote is the focus of this conversation with the mom of an 18yo trans-identified child who has begun taking testosterone. We talk about Peavy’s (pseudonym) hero’s journey after her daughter claimed a trans-ID at the age of 12: the clarity and growth that she gained through the experience, and the healthy relationship she’s nurtured with her adult daughter—and with herself—through clarity around boundaries and values. Peavy brings an incredible amount of compassion, insight, and wisdom to this conversation that I so enjoyed! I would have loved to keep talking for another hour, but alas, we had limited time. Peavy mentions the work of Carole Hooven, Harvard lecturer and author of T: The Story of Testosterone, the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us and also the poem titled, The Journey by Mary Oliver

You can reach out to Peavy at ppeavyy9@protonmail.com and you can follow her at Twitter: @ppeavvy9

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At this point, I have embraced this destabilizing, sometimes excruciating, sometimes wondrous experience of having a trans-IDed child as “curriculum of the soul.” Because I can’t help but imagine how different the world might be if we could all take the hardest thing in our lives and view it as this, as curriculum of the soul. Practitioners of Stoicism might say, "the obstacle is the way." These are my conversations and reflections--along the way.