The StoicMom Project
The StoicMom Project
My life matters too. -with Dana
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My life matters too. -with Dana

conversations with stoic mamas along the way

This conversation is part of a special series in which I talk with other moms determined to find healthy ways of navigating gender ideology in their homes. Moms whose stories and strategies may inspire you.


I suspect many listeners will resonate with much of Dana’s experience in the early days of discovering one’s child has assumed a trans-identity. Less than a year in when this interview was recorded, Dana describes several profound realizations that are helping her to have a calmer experience so she can preserve her relationship with her young adult daughter whom she “loves to pieces!” Working to intentionally shift her focus and come from a generous place of compassion for young people who are grappling with their identities, Dana also recognizes that keeping herself whole and healthy is just as important.

It was powerful to revisit the early phases of this experience through Dana’s stories of how it has been for her. Long-time listeners will likely hear areas where Dana’s approach differs from my own. Yet, she also describes “letting go” and shifting as she gains clarity around what’s most important to her, prioritizing the relationship, and keeping the lines of communication open. I enjoyed Dana’s frank communication style; this was a much longer conversation that she gave me permission to trim down for the SMP audience.

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Discussion about this podcast

The StoicMom Project
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At this point, I have embraced this destabilizing, sometimes excruciating, sometimes wondrous experience of having a trans-IDed child as “curriculum of the soul.” Because I can’t help but imagine how different the world might be if we could all take the hardest thing in our lives and view it as this, as curriculum of the soul. Practitioners of Stoicism might say, "the obstacle is the way." These are my conversations and reflections--along the way.