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Jun 2, 2022Liked by StoicMom

Brilliant!

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Jun 2, 2022Liked by StoicMom

So much honesty and humility...I enjoyed this discussion so much! You two make quite a dynamic duo: I could listen for hours. I had never really considered how much more complicated mother/daughter relationships are than mother/son ones are. But of course: I hadn’t thought about the mirroring aspect of it before.

Some other thoughts that came to mind as I listened:

- [ ] Moms really DO set the tone for the home. (Not solely, but so much!) I wish I had been more conscious of this when I was raising my little family. Come to think of it, I wish I had been more conscious of EVERYTHING while child rearing. All I got was a “What To Expect When You’re Expecting” book! We need more Gabor Mates, Gordon Neufields, Peter Grays, and others.

- [ ] Children blindly trust adults—much like adults blindly trust “experts”. We all need to learn to exercise better discernment in this department. Awareness of our propensity for this behavior is the key to changing it.

- [ ] Another useful tool I used myself to help to process my own disillusionment with our political leaders, my disintegrated trust in medicine and education, and other major life upheavals is Elizabeth Kübler-Ross’s “5 Stages of Grief”. It’s simplistic, but it helped me orientate where I was in the grief cycle, allowing me to predict what might come next, and it helped me manage my expectations generally.

- [ ] While I don’t disagree that the previous subcultures were probably organic and youth-led (but were they really, though?), in the early 70s, university professors were feeding undergrad students LSD. Timothy Leary was VERY influential…and there was plenty of CIA/military involvement, too. (Hello? Did I scare you away? Come back!)

- [ ] If anyone is interested in the history of public schools, I would highly recommend “NEA: Trojan Horse in American Education” by Sam Blumenfeld. It’s the best book on the subject I’ve ever read.

You have SUCH good content—thank you for it!

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Anorexia Is more apt to be fatal the longer it persists too.

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I wanted to say that could have been me. Fortunately my dad was a paediatrician and I realized what was going on and got on the list to get help right away and read everything I could get my hands on. By the time she was seen she had lost so much weight she was hospitalized, attached to bed with monitors because she had exhausted fat reserves and was digesting muscle. However she made a complete recovery. The point is with both conditions parents need to hit it with everything they've got as soon as they see signs because the more entrenched it becomes the worse the prognosis. This does not seem to be well understodd.

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