Such a great conversation. It's so true that we parents won't get any thanks, and we likely won't get any apologies or remorse. I realized that was a big part of my struggle to accept the reality of what I am working with: I want remorse. I want an apology for the pain and struggle this clash of beliefs has caused. And I won't get any of it. And that's okay. When I let go of that need/desire (okay okay, I'm still working on it) it's so much easier to connect in a genuine and connected way.
What a great conversation. My daughter seems to be in the process of desisting, but it's positively nerve-wracking - 2 steps forward, 1 step back. It was helpful to hear that I shouldn't look for an abrupt desistance nor an apology for all the trauma she put our family through. I'm surprised with how angry I am at her - for years all I thought I would feel is relief. I need to let it go.
Hmmm, I just noticed....you remove comments that don’t completely support your efforts to ‘grow’ through this experience with our children? Am I wrong?
The trans identity as individuation and separation, particularly from mom, is an important concept.
Another important idea is that you have to be quiet enough that your child can hear their own niggling doubts.
Such a great conversation. It's so true that we parents won't get any thanks, and we likely won't get any apologies or remorse. I realized that was a big part of my struggle to accept the reality of what I am working with: I want remorse. I want an apology for the pain and struggle this clash of beliefs has caused. And I won't get any of it. And that's okay. When I let go of that need/desire (okay okay, I'm still working on it) it's so much easier to connect in a genuine and connected way.
Hmm, well, I was looking for some verbiage I wrote in response to some of your posts and could not find any?
I was going to respond to a ridiculous op-ed in my local paper.
If I was wrong, I apologize! So sorry
I truly appreciate this conversation and what an eye opener on what I should focus on as far as a change in my relationship with my daughter!
This was a reminder of what does it mean to be a mother and continue to fight for our kids.
I wish I can be part of this support group as I have been looking for a while !
Thank you for sharing!
What a great conversation. My daughter seems to be in the process of desisting, but it's positively nerve-wracking - 2 steps forward, 1 step back. It was helpful to hear that I shouldn't look for an abrupt desistance nor an apology for all the trauma she put our family through. I'm surprised with how angry I am at her - for years all I thought I would feel is relief. I need to let it go.
Nope, I can’t find any of my comments on any of your posts 🤷♂️
Hmmm, I just noticed....you remove comments that don’t completely support your efforts to ‘grow’ through this experience with our children? Am I wrong?