Thank you for sharing this conversation-so touching and relatable. I'm crying with you for the same exact reasons. This will help me move forward in this nightmare-trying desperately to move forward. I don't want to be angry at my daughter but so hard to move beyond the anger. She is so intelligent-how can she fall for this BS!! Thank you so much, it really is very helpful to hear that someone else is feeling this too, I'm not alone, and I will move beyond this anger.
Thank you for sharing. I thought there was something singularly deficient with me feeling angry over this. It helps to know my reaction isn't unusual or abnormal.
I found the discussion of how the process of loving our children evolves to be very moving. Thank you for the bravery and rawness. I feel less alone because I have struggled with this too.
My daughter was also 22 when she shockingly declared that she thought she might be trans, and in just a few weeks she had begun testosterone. That was 3 1/2 years ago for us also. I have never been angry at her; she so clearly is a vulnerable and troubled human, a classic ROGD kid acting impetuosly in an atmosphere of intensive influence.
I have been angry at her younger sister, our fourth child, for her cruelly executed estrangement, largely in protest of our insufficient enthusiasm for her sister's transition. But in our family and mostly in the world, only her dad and I know that.
I wish that being not angry at my trans-identified child, that being respectful and silent and just worried about the disastrous state of her health since her transition was enough to keep us connected. The tether seems to be fraying.
Same here regarding lies, choosing to be a victim and trying to deconstruct the past to fit his narrative. Those seem to be the biggest obstacles to coming to terms with his choices. Those choices don't come from the right place so how can I affirm them?
Thank you for sharing this conversation-so touching and relatable. I'm crying with you for the same exact reasons. This will help me move forward in this nightmare-trying desperately to move forward. I don't want to be angry at my daughter but so hard to move beyond the anger. She is so intelligent-how can she fall for this BS!! Thank you so much, it really is very helpful to hear that someone else is feeling this too, I'm not alone, and I will move beyond this anger.
Thank you for sharing. I thought there was something singularly deficient with me feeling angry over this. It helps to know my reaction isn't unusual or abnormal.
As for moving forward from it - time will tell.
I found the discussion of how the process of loving our children evolves to be very moving. Thank you for the bravery and rawness. I feel less alone because I have struggled with this too.
I really appreciate the honesty about unconditional love. I think love does change, and grow or develop into new areas.
I very much appreciate this conversation.
My daughter was also 22 when she shockingly declared that she thought she might be trans, and in just a few weeks she had begun testosterone. That was 3 1/2 years ago for us also. I have never been angry at her; she so clearly is a vulnerable and troubled human, a classic ROGD kid acting impetuosly in an atmosphere of intensive influence.
I have been angry at her younger sister, our fourth child, for her cruelly executed estrangement, largely in protest of our insufficient enthusiasm for her sister's transition. But in our family and mostly in the world, only her dad and I know that.
I wish that being not angry at my trans-identified child, that being respectful and silent and just worried about the disastrous state of her health since her transition was enough to keep us connected. The tether seems to be fraying.
I’m so sorry. 💔
Thank you both for a brutally honest conversation. There are no easy answers.
Kelly, thank you for sharing your story. I listened a few days ago, but I’m still thinking about what you and your family are going through.
And I’m thinking about your resolve. We all feel broken, but we must still pick up the pieces and carry on.
Same here regarding lies, choosing to be a victim and trying to deconstruct the past to fit his narrative. Those seem to be the biggest obstacles to coming to terms with his choices. Those choices don't come from the right place so how can I affirm them?