I've been thinking alot about the mom whose son was unable to turn away from his video game when she told him of the death of a friend/family member. I can see and feel the hurt she must have felt, and I don't excuse the son's behavior, but what I've noticed about many video games is that one must stay with the game second by second or a virtual enemy could shoot you or steal something from you. In otter's words, in many video games you really can't take your eyes off the screen. So her son may have been deep into a game like that and that could be a reason why he was unwilling to turn to her for a moment.
Absolutely! Thanks for this comment that demonstrates curiosity and an attempt at understanding the full picture.
I don't know all the details of the mom, her son, and their dynamic, but I would encourage others to notice whether you might be "testing" your children when in similar situations? When they don't behave the way we think they should, the hurt and anger we experience is usually the result of feeling like we've failed somehow in our parenting. We rarely take the time to make sense of what is actually happening in that child's mind and heart, and instead fall victim to our impulse to take it personally.
I've been thinking alot about the mom whose son was unable to turn away from his video game when she told him of the death of a friend/family member. I can see and feel the hurt she must have felt, and I don't excuse the son's behavior, but what I've noticed about many video games is that one must stay with the game second by second or a virtual enemy could shoot you or steal something from you. In otter's words, in many video games you really can't take your eyes off the screen. So her son may have been deep into a game like that and that could be a reason why he was unwilling to turn to her for a moment.
Absolutely! Thanks for this comment that demonstrates curiosity and an attempt at understanding the full picture.
I don't know all the details of the mom, her son, and their dynamic, but I would encourage others to notice whether you might be "testing" your children when in similar situations? When they don't behave the way we think they should, the hurt and anger we experience is usually the result of feeling like we've failed somehow in our parenting. We rarely take the time to make sense of what is actually happening in that child's mind and heart, and instead fall victim to our impulse to take it personally.
I love this. Thank you so much. Really useful!