Super helpful as I just had a very difficult weepy and angry conversation with my daughter last week. However, looking back I actually did reflect and repeat when she called me uneducated. I was calm about it and said, "Huh, you think I'm uneducated?" She replied with yes about this topic I am and also said it's not up to her to educate me. OK. I tried to ask some critical thinking questions, but it all backfired. Alas. This was super important for me to read just now: "You are in her head so you don’t need to constantly be reminding her of your opinion on things." I'm trying to tell my brain and mouth to listen, reflect, and be in the present. You have given me more tools for my back pocket. Thank you!
Kudos to you! I agree with much of what you said, if only I could implement it as my son is estranged from us. Have you looked into Highly Sensitive Person? Wonder how it compares to an Enneagram. I looked at Enneagram, but didn't get too deep into it as most say you need to pay for an assessment.
Super helpful as I just had a very difficult weepy and angry conversation with my daughter last week. However, looking back I actually did reflect and repeat when she called me uneducated. I was calm about it and said, "Huh, you think I'm uneducated?" She replied with yes about this topic I am and also said it's not up to her to educate me. OK. I tried to ask some critical thinking questions, but it all backfired. Alas. This was super important for me to read just now: "You are in her head so you don’t need to constantly be reminding her of your opinion on things." I'm trying to tell my brain and mouth to listen, reflect, and be in the present. You have given me more tools for my back pocket. Thank you!
Kudos to you! I agree with much of what you said, if only I could implement it as my son is estranged from us. Have you looked into Highly Sensitive Person? Wonder how it compares to an Enneagram. I looked at Enneagram, but didn't get too deep into it as most say you need to pay for an assessment.