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EcoMom's avatar

"I also strongly suspect a trans identity is one way to shield oneself from the burden of expectation." So true. Especially for those who have strong oppositional tendencies.

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StoicMom's avatar

Indeed. I think it behooves all of us to look at the impact of expectation on relationhips. I think this is yet another way we project our shadow onto others.

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Rbl_Reason's avatar

Wow, what a beautiful piece. I can't wait for the upcoming piece you're calling "Self-Fulfilling Prophecies." I suspect that what you say about the story we carry in our heads about who our child is (and is not) is a big piece of my own struggle.

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StoicMom's avatar

Thank you, and I'm working on it! I started it before this one, then realized this one needed to come first while the experience was fresh.

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Erin E.'s avatar

Such a fun read!

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StoicMom's avatar

Ah, thanks! It was inspired by such a fun conversation. ;)

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Sweet Pea's avatar

Love this so much. Learning to love it with my kiddos too.

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StoicMom's avatar

Mmm hmm. It helps to understand that our children will ensure our stories of them come true. More about this in the upcoming, "Self-Fulfilling Prophecies."

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Helen Spielbauer's avatar

I must confess, I don't always take the time to read your posts. There is just so much content and not enough time! However, the title caught my attention and I read this one. I found it really beautiful and moving!

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StoicMom's avatar

Ah, thanks for dropping by Helen! So much content, so little time. I get it and always appreciate when someone takes the time to read and comment. <3

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J.J.H.'s avatar

Lovely💕

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StoicMom's avatar

🙏😍

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