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What an absolutely beautiful piece, and so eloquently, vulnerably and lovingly stated. Though I do not have time to compile them now, I have questions and thoughts to add. I hope I can do this sometime over the week.

In the meantime - your words continue to be thought-provoking and so often a comfort. Thank you.

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I'm only commenting after a second glance because I got your email about getting flack for this post. I'll admit, I was put off too. I just chose not to say anything until you asked for feedback.

Personally, I don't call myself many labels, and I don't tell people that I am "gender critical". I say I am an advocate for parents, particularly protective parents.

Perhaps your title could be something like "Why I am no longer labeling myself", or "Let's talk about labels", but that isn't catchy. Maybe lead with what you believe in or advocate for, but I suspect that many thought you were abandoning them or the cause.

It is a good thing to bring in nuances and acknowledge blind spots, which you did. But if some of your readers were like me, the title shifted something inside that may have felt like abandonment and then to protect their vulnerabilities, they couldn't really take in what else you wrote and unsubscribed. We need strong leadership right now, so it may have come off like you were stepping away even if you were not. I hope something I said was helpful.

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