Great read. Thank you. I wonder too if our stories after we’ve made decisions that have been mistakes we then retell to not have been mistakes after all. Could this be done because we need to protect our egos so we either say yes we made this mistake but look at the positive outcome? Sometimes mistakes are actually just mistakes and if we could go back we would make a different decision. It seems to be a coping mechanism maybe. I could be wrong of course but I’ve thought this when the transitioned people say they are glad they did it and wouldn’t change it. It’s a way of reinforcing ourselves so we don’t feel so bad about what we have done maybe. Idk 🤷♀️
Another great essay Stoic Mom. I had my own epiphany today about some framing that I use in processing the struggle in my family right now.
ROGD 18 yo daughter wants me and hubby to use her male name and pronouns. We are the only ones who don’t, and I frame this resisting as “being strong.”
Does that mean I believe that other parents who use chosen names or pronouns are “weak”? Absolutely not.
No judgment from me on that, and I want to stop framing it that way.
All parents who are looking deeper into GI theory and trying to guide their children are stuck in this bizarre hellscape. We’re doing what we can to make through to the other side.
A beautiful and thought provoking post - keeping the door open for mistakes and redemption - so tricky
Great read. Thank you. I wonder too if our stories after we’ve made decisions that have been mistakes we then retell to not have been mistakes after all. Could this be done because we need to protect our egos so we either say yes we made this mistake but look at the positive outcome? Sometimes mistakes are actually just mistakes and if we could go back we would make a different decision. It seems to be a coping mechanism maybe. I could be wrong of course but I’ve thought this when the transitioned people say they are glad they did it and wouldn’t change it. It’s a way of reinforcing ourselves so we don’t feel so bad about what we have done maybe. Idk 🤷♀️
Another great essay Stoic Mom. I had my own epiphany today about some framing that I use in processing the struggle in my family right now.
ROGD 18 yo daughter wants me and hubby to use her male name and pronouns. We are the only ones who don’t, and I frame this resisting as “being strong.”
Does that mean I believe that other parents who use chosen names or pronouns are “weak”? Absolutely not.
No judgment from me on that, and I want to stop framing it that way.
All parents who are looking deeper into GI theory and trying to guide their children are stuck in this bizarre hellscape. We’re doing what we can to make through to the other side.