Another insightful interview from the Stoic Mom Project. I’ve been taking in what is likely way too much information on this subject over the last year and a half, but a couple of things mentioned in this interview really stood out to me.
I think most important, that many, certainly my own young adult child, regard this decision to trans as a choice they needed to make to save their life. If it is ever going away, there better be something to replace it. The trans-identity, the solely LGBTQ friend group and the social justice causes have been the entirety of his identity for a long time. Finding this great passion in something else is certainly going to be needed if he is ever going to abandon this pursuit. I hadn’t really thought about that, but it makes so much sense. I’ve been so worried about the physical and mental health outcomes of this choice, that I hadn’t thought about the consequences of abandoning it.
Yes, and reading this again makes me think of the Tam Lin fairytale. How we hold them as they move through this incredibly difficult thing also provides them a model of how to be in the world, so being mindful of the "how" I think is also very important. Am I making any sense?
Another insightful interview from the Stoic Mom Project. I’ve been taking in what is likely way too much information on this subject over the last year and a half, but a couple of things mentioned in this interview really stood out to me.
I think most important, that many, certainly my own young adult child, regard this decision to trans as a choice they needed to make to save their life. If it is ever going away, there better be something to replace it. The trans-identity, the solely LGBTQ friend group and the social justice causes have been the entirety of his identity for a long time. Finding this great passion in something else is certainly going to be needed if he is ever going to abandon this pursuit. I hadn’t really thought about that, but it makes so much sense. I’ve been so worried about the physical and mental health outcomes of this choice, that I hadn’t thought about the consequences of abandoning it.
Yes. I've been thinking about when she said, one should never take away someone's coping mechanism without them first having a replacement.
Wonderful Q&A session! What stood out to me was:
It's not one thing. It's not one thing that made them do this, so it's not one thing that will get them out.
Our job as mothers is to provide space for them to grow/develop (or something like that.)
Yes, and reading this again makes me think of the Tam Lin fairytale. How we hold them as they move through this incredibly difficult thing also provides them a model of how to be in the world, so being mindful of the "how" I think is also very important. Am I making any sense?
How can we get in contact with Dr. Maggie?
You can email me at stoicmom@protonmail.com and I'll connect you with her.