I listened. You made your points so clearly - even more so than on Gender a Wider Lens. It was really fleshed out. I personally realized exactly the benefits of what you're doing. I'm still feeling a bit of the "anger" - although not at my child, and I have it under control. It just fuels me to keep up with what's happening and write what I'm writing. That having been said, there are plenty of people fighting the good fight, but not so many making sure parents are being good role models for their children, and also living their lives and not falling apart. It's totally analogous to the soldiers in a war and the people back at home keeping things together (my favorite movie is It's a Wonderful Life, in which George Bailey is 4F due to his ear, injured when he saved his brother as a child, but he keeps the villain in check, making sure people can afford to live in their own homes). Both roles are important, and some wars aren't even worth fighting, but it's always important to keep things on the homefront stable, since that's exactly what we're fighting for in the first place. It's so important for parents to remember not to let this consume them, and to show their kids that they have something to look foward to in adulthood. I thought the point about not catastrophizing, seeing that your child may not be on the brink of medicalizing (true in many cases), and reacting appropriately to the actual level of danger, was important as well.
BTW, I will respond to your latest essay about your daughter's impending move shortly.
Anger is a necessary human emotion that give us the energy to make change in our lives. It sounds like you're directing it productively (rather than controlling it.) As you said, it "fuels" you. ;)
I always appreciate your lens and thoughtful comments. I'm really glad to hear that this resonated and made sense--I remember being surprised when the G:AWL interview ended, thinking, "but we're just getting to the good stuff!" Stephanie did a great job of picking it right up where they left off and facilitating the rest of the conversation.
This podcast brought tears to my eyes so many times but especially this ‘ I had to let go so she could let go’
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I can't wait to listen. I'm a big fan of both of you!!!
I'll look forward to your thoughts!
I listened. You made your points so clearly - even more so than on Gender a Wider Lens. It was really fleshed out. I personally realized exactly the benefits of what you're doing. I'm still feeling a bit of the "anger" - although not at my child, and I have it under control. It just fuels me to keep up with what's happening and write what I'm writing. That having been said, there are plenty of people fighting the good fight, but not so many making sure parents are being good role models for their children, and also living their lives and not falling apart. It's totally analogous to the soldiers in a war and the people back at home keeping things together (my favorite movie is It's a Wonderful Life, in which George Bailey is 4F due to his ear, injured when he saved his brother as a child, but he keeps the villain in check, making sure people can afford to live in their own homes). Both roles are important, and some wars aren't even worth fighting, but it's always important to keep things on the homefront stable, since that's exactly what we're fighting for in the first place. It's so important for parents to remember not to let this consume them, and to show their kids that they have something to look foward to in adulthood. I thought the point about not catastrophizing, seeing that your child may not be on the brink of medicalizing (true in many cases), and reacting appropriately to the actual level of danger, was important as well.
BTW, I will respond to your latest essay about your daughter's impending move shortly.
Anger is a necessary human emotion that give us the energy to make change in our lives. It sounds like you're directing it productively (rather than controlling it.) As you said, it "fuels" you. ;)
I always appreciate your lens and thoughtful comments. I'm really glad to hear that this resonated and made sense--I remember being surprised when the G:AWL interview ended, thinking, "but we're just getting to the good stuff!" Stephanie did a great job of picking it right up where they left off and facilitating the rest of the conversation.
Loved this. Thanks so much!
You're welcome. I'm glad you found value in the conversation!