When my daughter was 13, I had a friend of mine who was also the mother of one of my daughter’s peers, tell me that my girl was using a boy’s name in her friend group.
Dear Stoic Mom, I don't know if you still see comments from your posts of months ago, but just in case you can, here it goes. This post is the one I needed to read. It took a while for me to subscribe - I've known in my heart that your writing would be a saving grace for me, but it took a while to take that step. This article speaks so deeply to my heart and my need for support to become the mother my daughter needs me to be. I'm only just starting to step away from the rage and the fear, and recognize that I have to respond differently in order to save my relationship with my daughter. Your experiences echo so many of my own, your daughter sounds so similar to mine, and the work you've done to come to this place where you are inspiring and helping others is, I think, going to be a life-line for me. Thank you for that. It is Canadian Thanksgiving here, and I am deeply grateful for women like you, Stella, Sasha and Lisa. Please keep writing and helping us find the light within.
I'm so grateful that you found this piece and that you took the time to write this. This was the piece that started it all, really. I wrote this for original publication on PITT before I launched StoicMom. I'm so so glad it spoke to you--notice the piece is big on self-compassion. We can use this circumstance to heal ourselves and get really good at relationship--which I believe humans are wired to be in. We kinda lost our way for awhile, but I see this as the path back to who we're meant to be as a relational species. It can be achingly beautiful. "The obstacle is the way." Welcome to the curriculum of the soul!
Dear Stoic Mom, I don't know if you still see comments from your posts of months ago, but just in case you can, here it goes. This post is the one I needed to read. It took a while for me to subscribe - I've known in my heart that your writing would be a saving grace for me, but it took a while to take that step. This article speaks so deeply to my heart and my need for support to become the mother my daughter needs me to be. I'm only just starting to step away from the rage and the fear, and recognize that I have to respond differently in order to save my relationship with my daughter. Your experiences echo so many of my own, your daughter sounds so similar to mine, and the work you've done to come to this place where you are inspiring and helping others is, I think, going to be a life-line for me. Thank you for that. It is Canadian Thanksgiving here, and I am deeply grateful for women like you, Stella, Sasha and Lisa. Please keep writing and helping us find the light within.
I'm so grateful that you found this piece and that you took the time to write this. This was the piece that started it all, really. I wrote this for original publication on PITT before I launched StoicMom. I'm so so glad it spoke to you--notice the piece is big on self-compassion. We can use this circumstance to heal ourselves and get really good at relationship--which I believe humans are wired to be in. We kinda lost our way for awhile, but I see this as the path back to who we're meant to be as a relational species. It can be achingly beautiful. "The obstacle is the way." Welcome to the curriculum of the soul!