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May 16, 2022Liked by StoicMom

Thank you so much for providing this amazing conversation. It is so helpful to hear other moms experiences. I have worked really hard on myself to be the parent my daughter needs me to be. I am seeing my efforts pay off in our very close relationship. Recently she told me her friends don’t have the same relationship with their moms and that I am a good listener. Your work really speaks to me. Thank you!

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"The parenting space is the judgiest space out there." So. True.

Just before that quote you talk about letting go of expectations. Expectations are something I think about often. I understand not "expecting" reality to be different than it is. That's a recipe for suffering. I get that.

What I think about is, is there a place for having high expectations for our children to live up to? I've been told I have high expectations, for everyone, myself included, not just my children. And usually that's said to me in the manner of a complaint, or as if it's a flaw to have high expectations. As if I should lower my expectations of the world around me. But is that really the world I want to live in?

When I have "high" expectations (which is such a relative term) and one of my children strives to live up to that expectation, I can see the joy and thrill of accomplishing something they may not have otherwise tried if I didn't have that expectation. I don't often see much discussion around having too low expectations, and maybe that's its own problem. And maybe I'm an idealist for expecting too much of others.

Anyway, another excellent conversation. So much wisdom here!

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May 20, 2022Liked by StoicMom

I am loving this podcast/Substack; I love this content.

“It’s NOT about me.” Wiser words have never been said.

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